There is an old saying that goes: It is easy to change things, but it is hard to make changes to ourselves. The reason I bring this up is because a good friend of mine informed me that after 15 years at the same job they had resigned, saying it was time for a change.
This is the time of year when we step back to evaluate our accomplishments and failures, and figure out what needs to change to confront new obstacles without losing our nerve. Resistance to change is perhaps the biggest threat to progress a person can face. Remind yourself that change takes time. To be successful, people must look to the future, not short-term gains and losses. Once you’ve restructured, implemented new systems, and launched new strategies, give the learning curve time to achieve the progress you want.
Susan Dunn, a clinical psychologist, observed that to survive and thrive you need to master the resilience you generally need to do these essential things:
1. Learn from experience. Resilient people reflect on what happens to them so they can move forward without illusion.
2. Accept setbacks and losses. Face the reality of what happens.
3. Recognize emotions. Resilient people identify what they’re feeling and express their emotions appropriately.
4. Keep time in perspective. Past, present, and future are separate. Don’t mix them up by, for example, letting what’s in the past determine your choices in the here and now.
5. Think creatively and flexibly. Look for new ways to solve problems and face challenges.
6. Take care of yourself. Resilience is based on good physical and mental health. Get enough rest, eat sensibly, and spend time with people who support you.
7. Ask for help. Resilient people don’t try to do everything themselves. Ask others for assistance graciously and effectively.
As another year comes to an end and we think about the changes we are going to make in the New Year, remember that nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.
Best wishes for a wonderful New Year! – Harold Sterling, CEO
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